Victim Psychology and Self-Sabotage

Or is it a genetic code rooted in ancestral transmissions? It's unknown, but a certain amount exists in every person's mind—the self‑sabotage disease… The quantity determines how a person's life will unfold.

Each of us already has an inner mayor who talks nonstop. ‘No, do it that way; no, why did you do this? No, why didn’t you say that at that moment? No, why didn’t you punish the other? Blah blah…’ Sometimes it seems like it will just fall silent, ‘Oh, it’s gone! I finally got to be alone with myself again,’ you say, and then suddenly it starts again, like a torn piece of ice breaking; the cigarette placed at the corner of the mouth, the hunched back and the hands he holds behind him, talking around the room… It neither stops, ends, nor leaves.

And he has a particular trait: he never hesitates to use his greatest weapon, which is keeping you trapped in an endless victim psychology. He knows deep down that otherwise it would be impossible for him to dominate you.

So who is this mayor? Is it the id? The ego? An alter ego? Or is it one of Jung’s archetypes that he keeps hammering at?

Human beings are multilayered entities, and these multiple layers can sometimes lead to a structure resembling multiple personality disorder. If you sit down and try to observe yourself, and you can see how many versions of yourself there are, you would be astonished by this magnificent multiplicity. Though they may keep an orchestra‑like rhythm within themselves, they generally tend to sustain their existence like constantly repeating defective records.

As all ancient teachings say, the main thing to do is for a person to observe themselves. Notice that even in this sentence there is plurality. Person, self, observer… In this state, it is unsurprising that all religious and moral teachings try to unite the individual, because to bring the orchestra and the mayor under control, it is essential to unite the multiplicity.

So what happens if we don't do this? The caretaker who locks us into victim psychology keeps talking. Our system cannot function healthily and becomes paralyzed. The personalities the caretaker throws in front of us keep manipulating us, just like puppets tied to strings. If the caretaker who controls the mind orders us who we should be that day, we become that. In fact, while often hopping from one archetype to another, we end up especially in the bondage of one.

If this archetype is a warrior, then we keep fighting everything, like a hero; we find ourselves within the stories we constantly try to be heroes in, but what if it's a victim?

This is the most dangerous point because a person trapped inside victim psychology cannot do anything, cannot produce any healthy thought for themselves or others, except to keep blaming others. According to them, everything that happens to them is caused by others. They are like this because someone has done this to them, and they cannot internalize that action and continue on their path. Then they follow up with other accusations: the first, then the fourth, then the fifth, and so on. Because the person cannot get out of victim psychology, they take control, cannot help themselves, and in such a state self‑sabotage becomes inevitable and they cannot continue living a healthy life.

So what can we do to prevent this? First, we need to understand the caretaker along with the mind and its nature. Why is it there and what does it want to do? Then, control must be taken by consciousness because the caretaker already represents the unconscious mind, that is, the external, the collective. To be aware of this, one must continuously maintain this state, which is possible by staying present. The most powerful weapon for staying present is breath.

Every person must always be aware of the breath they take and give so that they can bring the mind and caretaker back to the center from wherever they have drifted. It looks simple but is quite difficult. Even when you try for thirty minutes, you realize how arduous it is to maintain a state of awareness, but as you practice and make this a part of life, a person can protect themselves from the inner caretaker's wrath, falling into victim psychology, and self‑sabotage.